Just have a little faith【★】…

今天是2009年高考的最后一天，每当到这样的时候，对于经历过这一切的人来说，总是会感触颇深……三年前的今天，当我踏出考场的那一刻，我知道所有的一切都结束了，命运交给了那几张试卷，想想其实高考真的很残酷，一场考试决定了多少人的人生走向，但在中国这样一个社会，高考又是最公平的方式，所以对于我们这样没有背景，没有权利，又不是富人的人来说，只能欣然接受。正如我对K说的那样，我是怀念那段时光的，因为生活虽然单调但是简单，有明确的目标和方向，每天知道要做什么，心无旁骛，但其实内心对于那段经历也是有些后怕的，因为压力实在太大，离崩溃不远了。虽不说我的高考如何成功，（其实我并没有考好，但运气比较好，还是让我进了同济，对此我是无限感激），但同济对一般人而言已经足矣，正是因为如此，我才能拥有今天内心的清闲，大多数的时候可以睡到自然醒，每天做自己想做的事情，有足够的时间逛街，看电影、美剧，虽然经历了一次失败的感情，却让我更加坚强，成功减去20多斤赘肉，学会穿衣化妆，享受生活，跳舞，健身，游泳，健康饮食，平衡心态，成熟思考，偶尔泡泡酒吧 etc.所有这一些都是他离开以后才有的，所以中国古话一点不错，“塞翁失马，焉知非福”，而且有人说是要经过一次刻骨铭心，人生才能算完整，我只是经历得早了一些。感觉是最惬意的日子就是现在，但随着毕业的临近，岁数渐长，问题又接踵而至，首先是就业还是出国，创业还是打工，然后就是个人问题，估计是因为是女性的关系，老妈已经开始催着我恋爱了，想想我才21,急什么呢？没有遇到对的人，就是感觉不对，怎么可能就凑活到一块呢！暂且不说她的要求有多高，就算要碰上一个能有感觉也是很难的事情。
我认真地想想为什么会怀念高三那样非人的日子，主要我觉得是因为我怀念那个时候认真读书的心情，现在的我，面对即将到来的法语期末考试，法语四级，全国英语等级考试，还有应该要考的雅思和托福，全部都没有把握，造成我一种强烈的失落感，过去在高中，无论上什么考场，都是那样地胸有成竹，可是现在，诶……大学虽说自由，轻松，惬意，但是没有人督促我读书，真的，自觉性是不够的，对于这些“我自己找来的”考试，目的在于可以逼着自己好好学习，但是，结果却不尽人意。
还有让我最近几个月无比烦恼的就是暑期海外实习的事情，从突尼斯到乌克兰，到巴基斯坦，最终决定到印度，然后签证的事情，机票等等一系列都要我自己处理的琐事都把我这个有强迫症的人快逼疯了，对于那些应该在规定时间内要做好，但是现在看看还没有动静的事就会让我觉得压力无比之大和莫名的烦恼，以至于感到烦躁和抑郁，我现在就是处于这样的心情之中，而且这些事还不是我做好就可以决定它成败的，还关系到其他人，而其他人的工作态度我又是不能控制的……抓狂了要。
再来，就是我的感情生活，简直是一塌糊涂，我也就不想再怎么样了，就这样吧，我现在唯一能做的，就是无为而治，两年后的第一次心动就让它在我生活的繁琐和烦躁中自生自灭吧……反正我自己觉得是他的损失，not mine…

Many foreigners said that my english is great(actually not that good, since i am not able to pass the Adavanced Interpretation test.)but for sure ,i have no problem in communicating with people in english,(in fact i prefer to talk with native speakers, much easier).Then somenone asked me how i got thisand a very good understanding in western culture?here is why,i have watched too many TV series.

Because i feel upset these days, I have to keep myself busy, I made this list. A list of all the TV series i have watched:FROM THE VERY BEGINNING, MY FIRST EPISODE in 2005

1.24
24*8=192 + 7pre
2.prison break
season1-22 season2-22 season3-13 season4-22
total-79
3.bones
season1-22 season2-21 season3-15 season4-26
total-84
4.criminal minds
season1-22 season2-23 season3-20 season 4-26
total-91
5.csi LV
season4-23 season5-25 season6-24 season7-24 season8-17 season9-24
total-137
6.csi NY
season2-23 season3-23 season4-23 season5-25
total-94
7.one tree hill
season1-22 season2-23 season3-22 season4-21 seaason5-18
total-106
8.gossip girl
season1-18
9.ugly betty
season1-23 season2-14(to be continued)
10.reaper 18
11.the secret dairy of the call girl(uk)
season1-8 season 2-8
total-16
12.dirt
season1-13 season2-7
total-20
13.lipstick jungle
season1-7 season2-13
total-19
14.cashmere mafia-7
15.nip/tuck
season1-13 season2-16 season3-15 season4-15
total-59
16.the closer
season1-13 season2-13 season3-13 season4-10
total-49
17.house
season1-22 season2-24 season3-24 season4-16
total-86
18.damage
season 1-13

If you’re Chinese…
You don’t believe in God. You accept everything claimed by teachers and "experts." If you find errors in their thinking, you will complain, but next time you will still believe them.
You are familiar with Qín Shīhuáng, Sūnzǐ, Confucius, Zhōngshān Sūn, Xùn Lǔ, Chairman Máo, Prime Minister Zhōu, GuānYīn bodhisattva, Wùkōng Sūn, the Spring Festival, dumplings, fire crackers, and the Great Wall.
You know how table tennis and badminton are played. You know how to do at least some Gōngfu (Wūshù). If you are female, you played "Chinese jump rope" as a child; if you are male, you knew how to use a slingshot.
You get seven days vacation every Spring Festival, National Day and Labor Day, during which you can travel to other cities or go home to stay with your family.
You’re likely to believe in Buddha. If not, you probably believe you will be reborn in the future, and the species of your reincarnation will depend on your behavior in your current life.
You don’t think of McDonald’s, KFC, and Pizza Hut as tasty, healthy, or cheap food– everybody knows that Chinese food is the most delicious in the world. Somehow, when you do go to McDonald’s or KFC, you have trouble finding a seat because there are so many people eating there.
You probably have a telephone and a TV at home. If you live in northern China, your place is heated in the winter, but it isn’t if you are in the south. It has its own bathroom. Unless you live in a developed city, you do your laundry by hand, and no matter where you live, you hang it out to dry. You eat at a table, sitting on chairs
Who knows where that bear’s paw has been?
You eat almost anything, which, especially if you are in Guangdong, includes a variety of mammals, reptiles, and insects. However, feasting on one-time delicacies such as monkey brain and bear paws is now prohibited and widely frowned upon.
A bathroom in a house has a good shower and a good toilet in it; the toilet in a public bathroom will quite likely be a hole in the ground with the ability to flush.
The train system is acceptable. But there are too many people on the trains. Taking a plane, if you can afford it, is a better way to travel.
You find a one-party system natural. You expect the Chinese Communist Party to be responsive to business, strong on defense, and concerned with the poor. You find the People’s Congress Systems efficient
You don’t expect to hear socialism, Communism and such boring things discussed.
You think of all the races in China as a big family, or that’s what you’ve been told (see the first item on the list).
You think most problems could be solved if only people would work hard together.
You’d respect someone who speaks a foreign language, but, although you most likely studied English for at least ten years in school, you very likely don’t speak well enough to communicate with a monolingual foreigner. In Hong Kong and Taiwan–which are certainly China–you think the schools should teach kids Chinese. And that means Mandarin, none of that Yuèyǔ.
Despite this, the importance of learning English has been emphasized to you. Not that you’re likely to travel to an English-speaking country, but if you want a high salary, you’ll probably look for a position with a foreign company in China.
A wàn-year life to you!
You think a tax level of 10% is very high.
School is free through middle school; high school and college aren’t, unless you get a scholarship.
College is (normally, and excluding graduate study) four years long.
Mustard comes in jars, but nobody buys it. Shaving cream comes in cans. Milk comes in plastic jugs or bags, cardboard boxes, and sometimes in bottles.
The year comes first: 1949/10/01. (And you know what happened on that day.)
If you use a comma as a decimal point, your math teacher will punish you.
Higher numbers go by groups of four digits. Above a thousand, you go from wàn (1 0000 or ten thousand) to yì (1 0000 0000 or one hundred million).
World War II was eight years long for the Chinese, and we fought with Japan the whole time. It was a miserable period for the Chinese, but since then there has been no major tragedy in China.
You expect most marriages to be made for love, although your parents might arrange your marriage. And a man cannot have more than one wife at a time–legally–even if he wants to. For everybody besides the bride and groom, the wedding is a burden–they have to prepare the "red envelope."
If a man has sex with another man, he’s "a gay," and he cannot get a marriage certificate.
Once you’re introduced to people, you can call them by their full name, but depending on their social status, you can call them by their family name plus their title. You can also call them Xiǎo (young) or Lǎo (old) plus their family name.
If you’re a woman, you don’t go to the beach topless.
A hotel room has a private bath and a toilet.
You’d rather a film be subtitled than dubbed (if you go to foreign films at all).
If a politician has been cheating on his wife, you would never know unless he told you in person.
Credit cards are popular only in the big cities, although they are becoming more widely used even in the smaller cities.
A company can mostly fire whom it wants. In most cases a month salary will be offered as compensation.
Labor Day is on the first of May, but the holiday lasts for seven days.
To add to your Amazon wish list
You’ve probably seen ShaoLin Temple, Red Jowar, East Bubai, Telephone, and Hero. If you are under forty, add Dàhuà Xīyóu, Bet Deity, Story of Policeman, Fēihóng Huáng, New Longmen Inn; otherwise, add Love Story on Lu Shan, Guest from Ice Mountain, Grazier, and Lightning Storm.
You know Yōnglín Tán, Guóróng Zhāng, Xuéyōu Zhāng, Déhuá Liú, Fēi Wáng, Xiùwén Zhèng, Yīlín Cài, and Jiélún Zhōu. If not, you know Huān Liú, Nán sūn, Yū Quán, Yīng Nà, Hóng Hán, and Míng Chén.
Since medical fees are so high, you generally exercise and pray that you don’t fall ill. If you’re rich, you can access high-quality medicine to delay your death, but if not, you just wait for the inevitable.
Your country has been conquered by foreign nations, and you’d rather not talk about it.
You’re used to a wide variety of choices for almost anything you buy.
You still measure things in Chinese units sometimes; otherwise, you use centimeters, grams, and liters.
You may be a farmer. But if you are, you’re probably not reading this.
You drive on the right side of the road. You may or may not stop at red lights whether or not anybody’s around. When you’re riding a bicycle or walking on the road, you will trust your eyes over the stoplights. You may still drive a car on the road after you’ve had a drink.
You consider the Volkswagen Santana to be a medium-sized car as well as the vehicle of taxi drivers. Volkswagen Beetle? What’s that?
The police are armed, but in most cases, don’t use weapons.
If a woman is plumper than average, it doesn’t improve her looks. And "average" in China is much thinner than in most Western countries.
The biggest meal of the day is in the evening.
There’s parts of the country you definitely want to avoid, period.
And what did he do to his nose?
You would probably prefer to work for a foreign company, because you can get a higher salary and more valuable work experience.
You usually prefer to buy foreign products, because you believe they’re of better quality. If you have the opportunity to publicly display your indulgence in foreign products, by, say, eating in a Häagen-Dazs restaurant, all the better.
However, you’re very unlikely to buy Japanese products. This is due mostly to the tension between China and Japan that’s existed since World War II and continued as a result of their refusal to acknowledge the atrocities they committed during that time. You generally feel that Japanese look down on the Chinese and don’t want to interact with them as a group or individually. Frankly, you don’t want to say you hate them, but… Then you read what the Japan culture test says about Chinese, and your animosity is revived.
Korea, on the other hand, is a very good neighbor, who you think China has historically had a very good relationship with. You don’t have much opinion one way or the other about any of the remaining countries that neighbor China.
You would find a foreign son-in-law unacceptable. It would be good if the family’s financial situation of your son in law is almost the same as yours.
You think of Michael Jackson as the greatest dancer; however, he’s kind of crazy for changing his complexion from black to white.
The secret to our success: no lawyers
You feel that you aren’t considered as important as the people living in Beijing.
You tend to save most of your salary in the bank. And though credit cards are not very common, nearly everybody has an ATM card or three.
The normal thing, when a couple dies, is for the elder or the poorer among their children to get a larger piece of the estate.
Spring Festival is in the winter. You spend it with your family, visit your relatives and friends, and have a delicious meal together.
You may think a temple is a holy place. But you don’t want to live in it.
You’d be hard-pressed to name the capitals or the leaders of all the nations of Asia.
You will never leave a message at the beep. Most of the time, in fact, there is no beep.
Villas are built for wealthy men and foreigners.
You are distrustful of welfare. You want the government to improve social security and health care.
If you want to be a doctor, you need to get a doctor’s degree. Otherwise, you can’t get a job in a good hospital.
You don’t think you will need a lawyer during your lifetime.
Space and time
If you are male and your girlfriend is late for a meeting, you must wait there and be patient, and when she arrives, you should still smile. If you are female and your boyfriend arrives late, you will be very angry, and you will accuse him of not loving you. But after you are married, the above will be reversed.
The things you expect to bargain for are houses, cars, consumer electronics, clothing, food… If possible, you will haggle for just about anything. Haggling is to prevent you from being cheated or ripped off.
You will feel uncomfortable if a stranger–with the exception of a good-looking member of the opposite sex–is talking to you from closer than a meter away. If you are in a crowded supermarket, train, bus, queue–just about anywhere, as a matter of fact–you will have no choice but to bump into and push other people. In this case, comfort or discomfort is irrelevant: your only concern is for your personal belongings.
Once you’re past college, you very rarely simply show up at someone’s place. But you and your classmates/roommates will plan a meeting every few years to talk about your life and have a meal together.

 

×Here is just an article i ve read on the internet about chinese ppl. It reminds me of once my italian student luca asked me about chinese culture.He felt confused about the way how chinese people deal with business. So i just hope this could help some of you to work it out. and feel better living in shanghai.Enjou your time~

（无意中在校内看到的，感觉大部分还是很准的，其实还蛮希望对我有误解的人来看看，不过也无所谓看不看，因为那些对我有误解的人我也不屑向他们解释）

水瓶座女子

     水瓶女子经常会独处，无论是愿意不愿意，仿佛是宿命中的安排。有时也渴望交朋友，羡慕那夜夜笙箫，众朋相聚的生活，可是，当这样的事情真正来临时，却又会退缩了。不是外在的原因，而是内心的抗拒。水瓶女子了解自己，永远是那么冷静，那么客观。她内心明白，自己是不适合敷衍那些虚伪的生活的。当面对不是自己的知心朋友时，在一群陌生人中，水瓶女子会显出出奇的不合群，甚至冷漠。不是她意识不到，而是她内心的那种正义与刚强使她实在不愿强装欢颜，同样，她也不屑那些十分会“装”的人。所以，尽管水瓶女子有时也会感到孤独，可是，当她被不熟的一群人约她时，她会毫不犹豫的拒绝，丝毫不会感到内疚。不过，对个人的邀请，水瓶女子的拒绝率还没有那么高，她能够很轻松的面对个别的人或是她喜欢的几个人，那时，她会显示出她高超的幽默感，渊博的知识，浑身散发出独特的魅力，这尤其是在异性面前，让人无法抗拒。

　　水瓶女子最大的特点中，包括神秘与冷漠，让人欲罢不能，这是其它星座都不能与之匹敌的，因为水瓶座的神秘与冷漠是一种气质，它们融合了智慧，夹杂着些许感性。她们性感，却性感得不俗气，不浮华，而是充满高贵的性感。这让男人都不得不感叹：美，却不敢让人亵渎；冷，却又是致命的吸引。越是冷，越想让人一探究竟，可是，无论多么亲近的人，都永远无法触摸到水瓶女子心中最脆弱的地方。是的，水瓶女子心中其实是很脆弱的，但她却不会轻易在外人面前显露出自己的需要，永远表现的那么刚强。同时，她也习惯了，用自己的心去启示自己。

　　想接近，或者是想追求水瓶的男人，一定要有真的智慧，并且有一颗十足的真心，否则，就会进入万劫不复的地步。水瓶是感情的高手，之所以这么说，是因为，在十二星座中，唯一只有水瓶能够处理好朋友、情人、恋人的关系。在别人看来，可能她很花心，其实，她心里一点都不在意，因为，她分得很清楚。如果一个水瓶女子问一个男人能否分清朋友与情人的界限，或者只想和这个男人做朋友时，那么这个男人就要小心了。因为，也许水瓶真的只想和他作朋友，或者是比朋友再暧昧一些也无所谓。但是，如果水瓶真的只想和一个男人作朋友，言语中或许会有暧昧，但在心理上，她是根本不会给那个男人机会的。她或许会和那个男人约会，甚至有些亲密举动，但只要她心里认定你不是她要得那个人，做这些举动，说这些话时，她不会带丝毫感情，并且事后，可以当作什么也没发生。

　　所以，爱上水瓶，却不被水瓶爱时，真是很辛苦，水瓶不会拒绝和男人来往，也不会掩饰自己的魅力。但她会做的，一定是会讲清和你作朋友。不过，呵呵，这时也不要灰心，因为水瓶是喜欢了解后再相爱的，她不信任一见钟情，和你说作朋友，其实是要给双方了解的空间，而不想在还没了解时，就被束缚住，迷糊了双眼。不过，聪明的水瓶是永远不会拒绝了解一个人的，即使了解后，她发现这个人并非是她喜欢的类型，但以她平等博爱的个性，她是真的会把你当朋友的。这让很多男人都迷惑不解，感觉到有希望，却又水中捞月，什么都得不到。不过，如果水瓶真的不喜欢你，她不想让你白白付出时，她会表现出来，无论是从言语还是行动，因为她不喜欢欠别人的情，她会叫你不要对她太好，只是有时，她拒绝人时，还是让人欲罢不能……。

　　要想吸引水瓶，就表现的男人一些吧，因为水瓶座就属于阳性星座，她喜欢处处能表现出男人味道的人，当然，这个男人还要智慧，还要很爱她，要能征服她，让她崇拜，这时，水瓶女子会毫不吝厉的表现出她的崇拜和对你的爱。她会倾其智慧，让你的生活多姿多彩。并且，她会根据这个她所爱的男人，来适当调整或改变自己，当然，前提是她很爱那个男人。

　　水瓶最讨厌的人就是在她面前自以为是，以为魅力无穷的人，对于这种人，下场只有遭到水瓶女子的冷言讽刺。水瓶讽刺人的技术是很高的，如果她不加以控制，一个男人会被她说的无地自容。水瓶女子可能永远也不会知道自己想要的是什么，但是她一直都很清楚，她不想要的是什么。

　　她总喜欢做幕后的看客，冷冷地，静静地看着一切，在她眼里，一切都在她的意料之中，她并不觉得有什么是新奇的，如果她表现得新奇，那是因为她觉得应该这样做。她像一个看戏的人，永远置身事外。

　　你不要责怪她冷漠，这是她保护自己的唯一方式。她像一只刺猬，随时竖起自己身上的刺，但她的刺不会伤人，她只是用来武装自己。她不敢要太多的爱，她怕享受完爱之后，剩下的只是加倍的痛。所以当别人对她过度宠爱时，她不但不会欣喜，反而会惊惧地逃走，她不知道怎样回报别人对她的爱，如果你得到她的喜爱，那是因为她已经知道如何面对，如何回报了。她追求那种君子之交淡如水的境界。她懂得爱人，但她不习惯爱人，她知道爱往往伴随着恨，而恨，是太沉重的伤痛，也是太容易让人疲倦的感情。她不想痛，也就懒得去恨，于是，为了防范恨与痛的到来，她只好选择不爱，即使爱，也是淡淡的，冷冷的。别怪她，她是真的不知道如何专注。

　　她有时也很虚伪。不要指责她，她之所以选择虚伪，那是你勉强她做她不愿做但又拒绝不了的事，她不习惯承诺，也不懂得拒绝，她最擅长的是难为自己。她不想你难过，只好令自己难过。她总是固执地认为自己有超乎寻常的承受力，她将自己想得太坚强，而把别人想得太脆弱。她老是担心自己的行为会让别人受到伤害。她不知道，受伤的其实是自己。只是她不知道如何表现出来，她迷糊得像别人所认为的那样，将自己当成一个百毒不侵的人。

　　别以为她很洒脱，很多时候，她其实是放不下的——她比任何人都要敏感，都要细腻，但她不会让你知道，她明白，即使你知道了，也是无济于事。她的心是把握不住的风，她渴望像风一样单纯而自由。她不是不想平静，她只是找不到平静的理由，她一生都无法明确自己在人世要扮演的角色，她只有不停地寻求，寻求自己最终的目的。如果她找到了，她会毫不犹豫地停下来，从此放弃心灵的漂泊。很遗憾，她永远也不会满足，她的追求永不停止。她的心再累，也无法逼迫自己放弃梦想，梦想是她唯一的支撑点。

　　千万别让她失望。因为她学不会原谅，她非常渴求完美，虽然她知道世间没有绝对的完美，但，她有绝对追求完美的执着。你若令她失望，她会不可挽回地离开，即使她的心在滴血，即使痛楚重得要压垮她的生命，她也绝不回头。那个时候，你在她脸上所看到的，是让人寒心的决绝。即使她还在你的身边，她的心也早就离你十万八千里，你看不到她的恨，但是你会感受到比恨还让人痛苦的冷淡。她的离开是心灵的离开。

　　她可以在前半分钟对你好得让你受宠若惊，也可以在后半钟冷漠得让你不可接受。不要问她为什么这样善变，她也不知道。当你看到她在疯狂地快乐或悲伤时，千万不要迷惑，不管她看起来是多么的疯狂，她内心其实是冷静的，她比你们任何一个旁观者更知道如何处理快乐与悲伤，她只是习惯——也可以说是喜欢将一切都变得疯狂。因为她觉得这是义务，也是权利，她是制造气氛的能手，她的一句俏皮话会让一切轻快起来，但她的一声叹息又会将一切都弄得很沉重。她总是不由自主地交错操纵着快乐与忧郁。她并不如你们看到的那么快乐，同样，也不如你们看到的那么忧伤，只是，她忧郁时，喜欢带上快乐的面具，而当她快乐时，忧郁又不肯轻易放过她。

　　在她的宝瓶里，盛着的不是快乐的源泉，而是她不愿在人前滴下的泪水。你看到的她，笑起来像一个孩子，你有时会认为她天真得像是童话里走出来的天使。但是，你若有心，你会看到她沉静时脸上挥之不去的忧伤，还有她的眼底，竟那么凝重地积压着一种看破红尘的味道。她只有在午夜无人的时候，才会完全地释放自己。她不会在众目睽睽之下表露她的无助，她的彷徨，她的沧桑。她瓶子里的水，是永远流不尽的泪。你所看到的坚强，只是她在竭力掩饰的脆弱。

　　她有着分裂的人格，在她身上，永远存在着两个相互对立的极端。这对她来说并不矛盾，因为她是水瓶女子，她只想活得真，虽然她明知道，活得真是要付出代价的。不知道有多少的女生会抱怨水瓶女子抢走自己的男朋友的故事。的确，是有这样的事情发生。但是，我要说，这样的结果，往往是出于水瓶座的女人对自己的朋友的爱恋和相信，是她们忠贞于友情的一种代表。

　　已经经历过一些失败的水瓶座的女人，往往更相信朋友的眼光，而不愿意相信自己的，所有朋友的男朋友，往往很容易吸引水瓶座的女子。别看她表面上一副，男未婚女未嫁这是公平竞争的样子。其实，在她们心里，是非常难过的，很多时候，她们会想，如你一般优秀的女子，肯定还可以找到更好的男人，而我，恐怕也就是这个朋友所赐的这个男人了，希望可以得到朋友的祝福和原谅。毕竟，坚硬的瓶子的外壳下是柔弱的心。

　　水瓶座的女子，其实是最爱替朋友出头的。往往那种带着自己的好友到男人那里算账的女生，都是出于这个星座。水瓶的女子，好打抱不平，对于发生在好友身上的事情，往往比对发生在自己身上的事情还要更加的在意，她们甚至对于自己的事情可以大而化小，小而化了，但是对于朋友的事情，却是眼里揉不进一点点的沙子，一定要说出个谁是谁非，一定要让自己的朋友的恶气出尽。

　　有些时候，水瓶座的女生是愤恨男人的，她们常常美丽和冷艳，她们可以驾驭男人，因为她们已经知道男人的本性。她们喜欢怜惜同性，身边的女孩受到男人的欺负，或者看到那个追求自己朋友的男人不是个省油灯，水瓶座的女子都会毫不忌讳的提出，她甚至会毫不顾忌女生会因此和自己反目的去提醒你，去保护你。因为，在她们眼里男人没什么好东西，她们绝对不能容许自己的好友在自己的眼睛底下受到男人的欺负，她们会因此抓狂的。为了好朋友，而去伤害那个花心男人的事情，也是水瓶座的女人做得最多。

　　水瓶座的女子，不一定可以很快地把你当作朋友。其实，水瓶女子是很另类的，在自己的圈子里，其实总是会有一些女人看不上她们，觉得她们是做作也好，觉得她们是犯贱也好，总之，在每一个水瓶子女的背后，肯定是有不少骂声的。所以，很多水瓶座的女子会选择独来独往。因为对于她们来说，一个人的世界不一定就是孤独的，她们很会找到生活的情趣和乐道，不非要把精力都放在女人们之间的竞争和尔虞我诈之上。换句话说，一向以另类著称的水瓶座的女人，本来也不会把那些争风吃醋的女人放在眼里，她们自有自己的一套人生定则。尽管她们可能彼此不同，但是她们都是个性的自我。

　　当然，如果你诚心的与她们交往，她们可能真的会打开自己的瓶盖，让你进去，和她们共同的享有那个瓶子。是的，你明白我这句话意味着什么吧，是的，就是意味着，一旦她们当你是朋友，就会完完全全的相信你，将自己的一切都与你分享，这样的友情，可能在这个时代看来都是有些傻的，但是水瓶座的女子给的起，尽管换来的是伤害，她们依然如故，因为她们相信自己的准则。诗人泰戈尔说过：当鸟翼系上黄金时，就飞不远了。

智者曰：“两弊相衡取其轻，两利相权取其重。”

放弃是生活中时时面对的清醒选择，学会放弃才能卸下人生的种种包袱，轻装上阵。安然的等待生活的转机渡过风风雨雨；懂得放弃，才拥有一份成熟，才会活得更加充实、坦然和轻松。

学会选择就是审时度势。扬长避短，把握时机，明智的选择胜于盲目的执着。

古人云：塞翁失马，焉知非福。

选择是量力而行的睿智和远见。

放弃是顾全大局的果断和胆识。

人生如戏，每个人都是自己生命惟一的导演，只有学会选择和放弃的人才能彻悟人生，笑看人生，拥有海阔天空的人生境界。

首先我要说一下，怎么就想起来写这篇文章呢？主要是又到了圣诞节，让我最百感交集的节日，再加上年末，总得给自己的2008写个总结，给2009写个计划（初高中时烙下的毛病）…………而且写下一些自己的心情，说不上是故事，对于自己也是一种更真切的体验，触及自己更深的地方，也好更清楚自己下一步要怎么走。所以总行所述，写了这篇文章。如果有人看就看了，反正本来就不是为了别人写了~~

sociology is the study of people in groups,of people interacting with one another,even of nations interacting during peace or war.Sociologists’ interestsare sparked when they see two or more people with a common interest talking or working toether.They are interested in how groups work and in how nations of the world relate to one another.When two or more people are interacting ,sociologists have the tools to study the process .It could be a married couple in conflict or a teacher and students in a classroom situation;it could be individuals interacting in a work group ,sports teams on a playingfield,or negotiating teams discussing nuclear disarmament.

sociology shares a common bond with other social sciences.All are concerned with human behavior in society;they share the perspective of the scientific method and some ofthe same data-collecton methods to study their subject mattter.Sociology is the broadest of the social sciences;its main conern is with predicting human group behavior.

 I have never tried to write blog in engish, expressing feelings inside.However, i wanna have a try this time. Not only at this moment i just wanna speak english, but also i wanna some of my foreign foreign friends to read it. Let them know who i am and what i am thinking about in my mind. Since last christmas, too many things have happened. I met  or chat with foreign men, who are from uk, iran,turkey, italian,irsland…..suddenly my views of the world, life,love etc.almost everything have been changed.Even myself seem to be another girl i never know.

Whether this girl is good or not, what’s my opinion for this girl,who knows, i don’t know.As in the last mail i sent him,maybe she is the real me inside.AN EVIL Recently i keep reading novels written by chinese people who went abroad and meet different ppl in different countries.These ppl vary from successful businessman,doctors,professors in university etc. But one thing is for sure, these western ppl are totally different from chinese ppl. As a chinese girl , who was born in sh,grow in sh, study in sh,everything in sh,i am confused by the world. What’s wrong with it, the earth spin as she did millions years ago, but the ppl live on it,just going too far away from origin.Money,sex, drugs drive ppl insane.Those who have fucked 700 girls, amazing right?! gays,tyrannizer,drugsters….too many this kinda abnormal ppl poured into china.I have to say, besides the economy growth they brought, they do polluted grand nation.They come with their serious psychological problems and put these painful experience on pure,kind chinese ppl.and in order to the new stuff coming around, chinese ppl changed alot. we admire the western culture , ppl especially male,products blindly.Nowadays if u go surfing some web site which are popular among the foreigners in sh such like smartshanghai, shanghaistuff, u will find a lot of chinese girls turn into bit**,slu* They are easy to get and be screwed.they still believe the man fuck u loving u ? maybe few of them do,but most of them just animals consider with their coc*.finally girls find they have been cheated ,then their hearts break into pieces.What a tragic story.Except u r a girl with real open mind, just for fun. Well the girl is not who i am talking about.

 come on ,wake up.Also to myself.I guess i am sorb,i dont care if he is cheating me,whether he is dating other girls.It seems so hard for me to open my heart to another guy after him.I have no feelings for anyone no matter he is handsome or not, rich or not, to me, they are all the same.what will happen next, who knows.

it is alreay 7 weeks since the new semester began,i have wasted tooo much time this term.I guess it’s time to  hurry up.DO SOMETHING

 

LET’S GO AND SEE.

 

ZFY